Do you ever ask yourself, “I’ll be happy when……………” just insert whatever the word is for you. Maybe it’s when you can afford a new car or a new bikini or when the house is painted. Why do so many of us wait to be happy?
What is wrong with being happy right now?
Do you know this song?
“If you’re happy and you know, it clap your hands.
If you’re happy and you know, it clap your hands
If you’re happy and you know it then your face will surely show it,
If you’re happy and you know it can your hands.”
I decided to do my own household happiness survey. So, I begin with one of our adult daughters.
“Are you happy?” I got an emphatic, “Yes!” Smiling at her enthusiasm, “what makes you so happy?” I asked. This was her reply,
- Having good friends
- A job she enjoys
- Family that she gets on with (of course…) and
- Being able to go away for weekends and catch up with friends who live out of town.
We were on a roll, so I asked one more question,
“If you had more money, would it make you happier?”
This time the answer didn’t come so quickly. “Maybe. More money to spend means I could do more. I can manage on what I earn, but if I was offered a pay rise, I wouldn’t say no.”
Next, I asked my husband the same question, “are you happy’?” Again, I got an emphatic “Yes!” He reasons for his happiness weren’t very different from our daughter’s,
- Being able to spend time with family and friends
- Challenging work projects and
- Getting away more, doing outdoor stuff
Then the money question, “if we had more money, would you be happier?” (I just love asking the curly questions…). I could see the ‘cogs’ turning as he thought this through. “If it meant I had to spend more time working to generate the extra income, then no, I wouldn’t be happier.”
“On the other hand, if we came into a lot of money, we could take more time to enjoy life and perhaps go and experience places we wouldn’t have. But I still don’t think it would make me any happier than I am now. Sure, it would give us that comfortable buffer, but no, not happier.”
And me? Yes, I am happy! Would more money increase my level of happiness? Probably not. Sure, we could buy more ‘stuff’, have more holidays, but at the end of the day it comes down to your core values of what makes you happy in first place.
There is no denying the fact that if you’re in a situation where you don’t have enough money to fulfill your basic needs of life like, food, clothing and shelter, then more money would very probably make you happier.
Clap your hands
If we have enough money to cover off life’s basic needs, isn’t it about time we started clapping our hands, instead of looking outside of ourselves and waiting until we have more stuff to make us happy?
I am not saying there is anything wrong in wanting more things; a nicer house or a flash car, but your happiness shouldn’t be delayed until you have them.
We need to stop, take a deep breath, look around and see where we are right now and take pride in what we’ve achieved in our lives.
So, go for a walk, watch the sunrise. Tell your partner and/or children that you love them. Start looking inside yourself rather than externally for your happiness.
If you don’t feel happy right now, then every morning when you wake up, I want you to think of one thing you are grateful for. Keep doing this and as the list grows, so will your happiness.
For many, happiness= expectations – reality.
If you want to be a little silly then sing the song and just start clapping. Why wait to be happy 🙂
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